It’s Just a Prank”—But She’s the One Left Holding the Shame -By John Egbeazien Oshodi

The Hidden Harm Behind Youngkong’s Sexualized Street Tactics and Why It’s Time to Stop Laughing

He doesn’t stumble into these moments. He scouts them. He studies the street. He calculates the time and place. And then, with a smirk and a hidden camera, he pounces.

It starts like this:

“Hi, sorry—can you help me with directions?”

The woman pauses. She’s not expecting anything unusual. Maybe she’s in a market. Maybe it’s a sunny day. Maybe she’s simply out doing errands. She stops. She listens. She points him the right way.

But as he turns to leave, her eyes are drawn to something unnerving: a suspicious, exaggerated bulge running down his leg or thigh. It doesn’t look right. It doesn’t feel normal. She tries not to look, but instinct kicks in.

Then comes the scripted line:

“This is my stuff… I was born with it.”

“Can you handle it?”

She flinches. She freezes. She raises her eyebrows. Some respond with nervous laughter. Others gasp. Some flirt back—not because they want to, but because the moment catches them off guard. They ask, directly or indirectly:

“Is that real?”

What she doesn’t know is that she is already part of a viral video.

A hidden camera records her reaction. Every twitch, every smile, every awkward moment is captured and saved for one purpose: entertainment.

From Flirt to Exploitation

This isn’t comedy. It’s a performance built on provocation.

The prankster uses props—a cucumber, a sock, a rolled cloth—to simulate an exaggerated male genital bulge. The goal is simple: elicit shock. Prompt embarrassment. Provoke desire.

But it doesn’t end there. Sometimes he goes further.

He tells the woman he doesn’t have money for transport.

He claims his phone battery is dead.

He says he’s stranded and needs to contact someone.

And women, unaware of the setup, respond with compassion:

Some offer him money for his journey.

Some pull out their phones, letting him call a stranger.

Some say, “You can come with me” or “Let me help you find a place to stay.”

One even says: “I’ll pay for a hotel. Don’t worry.”

Some women, visibly shaken yet intrigued, exhibit involuntary signs of nervous arousal—licking their lips, playing with their hair, fidgeting with their clothes near sensitive areas, touching their necks, or adjusting their posture. These responses aren’t signs of consent or flirtation—they’re physiological and psychological reactions to sudden and confusing sexual cues, especially in public. Each gesture is part of a complex web of instinctive human behavior under social duress and emotional vulnerability.

Others appear emotionally drawn in by his scripted helplessness. When he says he’s stuck without money for transport or needs to call someone but has no battery or airtime, they respond with real concern. They reach for their purses, offer small bills, suggest getting him food, or even offer to walk him to a safe location. One woman says she’ll pay for his hotel. Another insists on buying him a phone card. A third gently hands over her phone and says, “Let me call someone for you.” These are genuine acts of care—manipulated and exploited for content.

What appears on camera as playfulness is actually a manipulated state of empathy, attraction, and anxiety. And the women involved? Most will face consequences long after the joke has ended.

Not Just Flirting—A Form of Public Emotional Exposure

We must call this what it is: digital emotional ambush.

These pranks go beyond harmless teasing. They lead women to expose not just their emotions, but their generosity, vulnerability, and bodily reactions. And all of it is packaged for laughs, likes, and shares.

It’s not just about how she reacts in the moment. It’s about what that reaction costs her afterwards:

At work: Her face circulates. Colleagues whisper. Her professionalism is questioned.

At home: A partner sees it. He replays it. He asks: “Why did you laugh?” “Why did you touch him?”

In her circle: Friends grow distant. Judgments arise.

In her mind: She replays it again and again. The shame multiplies. The guilt settles in. The regret becomes unbearable.

Some women react with anger when he finally reveals:

“It’s just a prank.”

But by then, it’s too late. The footage is secured. The video is edited. And her privacy has already been sold to the internet.

She becomes a meme. A punchline. And tragically, she becomes a case study in how public spaces are becoming psychological traps.

The Deeper Psychological Harm

As a psychologist would confirm, these pranks exploit neuro-emotional reflexes:

Startle-Arousal Confusion: The mind interprets sudden sexual suggestion as ambiguous threat or attraction.

Social Conditioning: Women are trained to be polite, to not make a scene.

Public Performance Pressure: In a crowd, people often suppress discomfort to “save face.”

Freeze or Fawn Response: Under surprise and stress, the brain triggers coping mechanisms—especially in women conditioned to avoid conflict.

Moral Entrapment: When women offer help, they are pulled into a trap of false kindness. Their virtue becomes entertainment.

These are not moral failings. These are manipulated survival instincts. And the damage left behind doesn’t just disappear. It lingers. It festers. It affects trust, self-esteem, and emotional safety.

He Gets the Fame, She Gets the Fallout

Let’s be brutally honest:

He walks away with views, followers, brand deals.

She walks away with reputation loss, relationship strain, emotional fatigue.

This is not a fair exchange. It is a one-sided transaction that trades a woman’s dignity for a man’s dopamine high from digital fame.

And yet, we laugh.

We share.

We comment with flame emojis.

We cheer for the “confidence” of the prankster while ignoring the pain of the woman who was never in on the joke.

She is ridiculed. Not for what she did—but for being human in a moment of deceit.

This Isn’t About Deeply Blaming One Man—But It Is a Demand for Accountability

Let this be understood:

This is not a personal witch-hunt. It is not an attack against Youngkong as an individual.

It is a demand for ethical boundaries, for creators to understand that not everything done for clout is harmless. It is a call to action for platforms, followers, and viewers to wake up and ask:

Who is really being hurt?

Who is laughing, and who is left crying?

It is also a call to lawmakers and digital rights advocates: where are the protections for those who never gave consent to be sexualized and posted to millions?

Final Word: She Is the One Left Holding the Shame

So the next time you scroll past one of these videos, ask yourself:

What if that was your daughter? Your wife? Your mother?

What if that moment cost her peace, her relationship, her family, her job, or her self-esteem?

What if her act of kindness was turned into a global joke?

Because when the prank is over, the camera packs up, and the video goes live—

he walks away with applause.

But she is the one left holding the shame.

And she must carry that shame in silence, while the world scrolls on.

This writer does not know any of the individuals involved; the focus is solely on upholding democracy, truth, and justice.

John Egbeazien Oshodi

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Professor John Egbeazien Oshodi is an American psychologist, educator, and author specializing in forensic, legal, and clinical psychology, cross-cultural psychology, police and prison sciences, and community justice. Born in Uromi, Edo State, Nigeria, he is the son of a 37-year veteran of the Nigeria Police Force—an experience that shaped his enduring commitment to justice, security, and psychological reform.

A pioneer in the field, he introduced state-of-the-art forensic psychology to Nigeria in 2011 through the National Universities Commission and Nasarawa State University, where he served as Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology. His contributions extend beyond academia through the Oshodi Foundation and the Center for Psychological and Forensic Services, advancing mental health, behavioral reform, and institutional transformation.

Professor Oshodi has held faculty positions at Florida Memorial University, Florida International University, Broward College, where he also served as Assistant Professor and Interim Associate Dean, Nova Southeastern University, and Lynn University. He is currently a contributing faculty member at Walden University and a virtual professor with Weldios University and ISCOM University.

In the United States, he serves as a government consultant in forensic-clinical psychology, offering expertise in mental health, behavioral analysis, and institutional evaluation. He is also the founder of Psychoafricalysis, a theoretical framework that integrates African sociocultural dynamics into modern psychology.

A proud Black Republican, Professor Oshodi advocates for individual empowerment, ethical leadership, and institutional integrity. His work focuses on promoting functional governance and sustainable development across Africa.