Strictly For The Youth In His Or Her 20s: Seven Life Lessons To Steer You Away from Regret, by Isaac Asabor

Your 20s are often painted as the prime years of your life as it is the decade of life that gives the feelings of being full of energy, possibilities, and a sense of invincibility. But as exhilarating as this decade can be, it also comes with its fair share of uncertainty, pressure, and, if you are not careful, regret. The choices you make now will echo into your 30s and 40s, shaping the course of your life in ways you might not fully grasp until much later.

Having crossed that milestone myself, I have come to realize that there are some universal truths about navigating this formative decade. Here are seven lessons to keep in mind that can help you avoid regret down the road.

First among the seven lessons I learnt in that decade is that no one have it all figured out, and that is okay. After all, a relevant scripture, Psalm 57:2 explains that, “I cry out to God Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me.” This suggests that understanding and fulfillment in life come from God alone, illustrating that human may not have it all figured out without divine guidance. Additionally, John 1:18 mentions that no one has ever seen God, but Jesus, who is God, has made Him known, emphasizing that true understanding of life and God comes through Him.

In fact, the idea that you need to have everything figured out in your 20s is a myth. Social media often amplifies the illusion that everyone else has their life perfectly mapped out, but the truth is far different. No one has all the answers, and that is perfectly normal. Do not place unnecessary stress on yourself by believing you should have everything set in stone. Rather, embrace the uncertainty, and allow yourself the grace to explore, fail, and learn.

Secondly, take your work seriously, but not yourself.  The reason for the foregoing advice cannot be farfetched as your work is your contribution to society, and it is important to perform to the best of your abilities. But while your work may define your career, it does not define you as a person.  In the same vein, maintain a healthy balance by taking your responsibilities seriously, but do not be afraid to laugh at yourself. Life is too short to be taken too seriously, and a little humor can go a long way in keeping you grounded.

Thirdly, endeavor to travel. This is as the world is bigger than you think. Not travelling may make you see people from other tribes cohabiting in your land as threats to your existence instead of seeing them as compatriots.  Little wonder some educated people are today heard and seen asking those who are not affiliated to their tribe or ethnic group to leave their land. It is understandable, though such people are educated, even up to university level but travelling would have made them to be more accommodating, and not being paranoid. If you have the opportunity to travel, seize it with both hands. Travel opens your mind, exposes you to different cultures, and broadens your perspective in ways that nothing else can. The experiences you gain while traveling will stay with you for a lifetime, far outlasting material possessions. You will never look back and think you traveled too much, only that you did not do it enough.

Fourthly, choose your circle wisely. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. This age-old adage is a reminder of the profound impact that your social circle has on your life. Surround yourself with people who inspire, challenge, and uplift you. The right company can push you towards growth, while the wrong one can hold you back. Be selective about who you invest your time in. It is one of the most valuable currencies you have.

In a similar vein, invest in your health, and your future self will thank you. Building healthy habits now is an investment that will pay off for decades to come. Eating well and exercising regularly are not just about looking good, they are about feeling good, both physically and mentally. Your body is the only one you have, and taking care of it now will help you avoid a host of problems later on. Do not wait until it is too late to start prioritizing your health.

Also, endeavor to master the art of communication. The reason for the foregoing view cannot be farfetched as good communication is a skill that will benefit you in every area of your life. Whether it is in your personal relationships or your professional endeavors, the ability to express yourself clearly and effectively is invaluable. Take the time to polish your communication skills now as they will serve you well for a lifetime.

Finally, do not hold back your emotions. We often hesitate to express our emotions, fearing vulnerability or rejection. But life is unpredictable, and you never know when you might lose the chance to tell someone how you feel. Whether it is love, gratitude, or even anger, do not bottle up your emotions. Express them while you can, and you will be glad you did.