“If You Don’t Love Me, Go Handle Your Husband’s Problems” – A Reality Check, And Advice For Chike -By Isaac Asabor

Fame can make a man arrogant in a very specific way. It makes him hear a warning and think it is a compliment. It makes him look at a married woman’s wedding ring and see it as a challenge rather than a boundary. Right now, that man appears to be Chike Osebuka Eze, the smooth-voiced singer who has given us beautiful music about heartbreak and hope and has now apparently wandered into another man’s marriage.

For anyone out of the loop, it is germane to contextually enlighten him that Chike, known for his hit “Running (To You),” has been trending for the wrong reasons. He is allegedly involved with a married woman. Not separated. Not divorcing. Fully, legally married. While the internet has laughed, gasped, and made memes about it, what stands out is how perfectly Chike’s own songs can be used to call him out. So, Chike, since music is your language, here’s an open letter written in your own lyrics.

Paradoxically, you sang “Running (To You)”, but you are the side character here. Your biggest hit is a heartfelt plea for refuge, running to someone who feels like home. It is a beautiful song. But in this situation, Chike, you are not the destination. You are the detour. You are the unplanned stop a woman makes when she told her husband she was going to the supermarket.

The woman you are allegedly running to already has a home, and someone else built it. You are not her safe place; you are her secret. And the irony is painful: in that very song, you sing about needing somewhere to rest. Her husband already laid the foundation and pays the bills. The running, sir, should be in the opposite direction, toward someone who is actually available.

“If You No Love Me”, which is unarguably your own song is laughing at you. In this 2022 hit, you confidently declared: “If you no love me, say I no care… I go find another woman.” Bold words. Too bad you didn’t take your own advice.

Here’s the hard truth: if she truly loved you, she would have left her husband before things went this far. She did not. And when this story fully comes out, history suggests she will say you “meant nothing” and call it a “moment of weakness.” You’ll be the one left holding the consequences.

So when she eventually pulls back, because the pressure will become too much, do not say you will just find another woman. Because the next woman will ask what you learned from this situation, and you would not have a good answer. Your own lyrics wrote the ending for you.

“Nakupenda”, a love song with an expiration date. “Nakupenda” means “I love you” in Swahili, and in the song, you sing about doing this “forever.” But Chike, married women do  not come with forever. They come with “until someone finds out.”

You are a man whose music speaks about deep, lasting love, yet you have chosen a situation that has a short expiry. The only “forever” in this story is the memory of an embarrassing moment you cannot take back. That is not the legacy your talent deserves.

Chike, why explaining to you in this context that what you allegedly did is more than just internet drama, it is expedient to set the jokes aside, and remind you that you are genuinely talented. You have a voice that connects with people deeply. You do not need the complications that come with being involved with a married woman.

Here is what often gets overlooked: Scorned spouses are unpredictable, and Nigeria is already stressful enough without adding a hurt, angry man who feels he has nothing to lose, and as a celebrity, you are easy to find and easy to blame publicly. Beyond that, if she has children, you are not a fun outsider to them; you are the reason there is tension and pain in their home.

Your reputation also takes a lasting hit, because right now you are the romantic, loveable artist, but once you become “the side guy,” that label sticks, and no number of great songs fully erases it. Finally, the same behavior tends to repeat itself as someone who cheats with you can just as easily cheat on you, and the same habits that brought her to you will eventually take her elsewhere.

Chike, you have a song called “Out of Love.” Listen to it. Because that is exactly where this road leads, out of love, out of dignity, and possibly into legal and financial trouble.

Your music deserves to live on wedding playlists, not gossip blogs. You are better than this. So do yourself a genuine favor: find someone who is fully available and let married people sort out their own marriages.

The only thing currently running is your reputation, and it is headed in the wrong direction. That is the final track.