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Should Parents Still Decide Career Paths for Their Children? -By Ife Oluwa
A good example is . He has spoken about how his parents wanted him to focus on school and did not believe music could become a career. His father especially opposed his trips to the studio. But he refused to give up on his dream. As his success became more visible, his parents eventually realised that music was not just a hobby—it was his future. Today, they proudly support him.
Imagine being told that your future has already been planned for you. You want to become a journalist, musician, actor, or footballer, but your parents have already decided that you must become a doctor, lawyer, or engineer. This is a reality for many young people today, and it raises an important question: Should parents still decide their children’s career paths?
Personally, I don’t think they should.
Every child is different. We all have different talents, interests, and dreams. While parents usually want the best for their children, choosing a career on their behalf can sometimes do more harm than good. A career is something a person may spend the rest of their life doing. If there is no passion for it, it can become a burden instead of a source of fulfilment.
For example, imagine a child who loves football and dreams of playing professionally. Instead of encouraging that dream, the parents insist that the child must study medicine because they believe it is a more respectable profession. There is nothing wrong with becoming a doctor, but if the child’s heart is not in it, they may struggle to stay motivated and perform well. At the same time, that same child could have had the potential to become the next great football star.
I understand why parents make these decisions. They want their children to have stable jobs and successful lives. In a country like Nigeria, where unemployment is a serious challenge, many parents believe that careers like medicine, law, and engineering offer better security. Their intentions are good, but not everyone is meant to follow the same path.
The truth is, every profession matters. We need journalists to tell important stories, teachers to educate future generations, musicians to entertain and inspire people, athletes to represent the country, and entrepreneurs to create jobs. Success is not determined by the title of a job but by the passion and commitment a person brings to it.
A good example is . He has spoken about how his parents wanted him to focus on school and did not believe music could become a career. His father especially opposed his trips to the studio. But he refused to give up on his dream. As his success became more visible, his parents eventually realised that music was not just a hobby—it was his future. Today, they proudly support him.
Stories like this remind us that parents do not always know where their children’s greatest potential lies. Sometimes, all a child needs is guidance, encouragement, and the freedom to make responsible choices.
Parents should advise their children, not make life-changing decisions for them. They can share their experience, point out the challenges of different careers, and offer support, but the final choice should belong to the child.
After all, who should live with that decision—the parent or the child?
I believe children should be allowed to pursue careers that match their abilities and passions. When people love what they do, they are more likely to succeed, contribute to society, and live fulfilled lives. That is a future worth supporting.
Ife Oluwa is a 200-level Journalism and Media Studies student with a passion for opinion writing and storytelling. He writes on youth issues, education, and social challenges, using his work to encourage meaningful conversations.
